Pleasing the Real Person

Pleasing the Real Person

Nayana Priya Devi Dasi

Hare Krishna Prabhujis and Matajis,

Please accept my humble pranams. All glories to Srila Prabhupada and Srila Gurudev.

In this material world, the more you do, the more expectations are there from it. There is no end to this greed of satisfying our senses and other's senses. We have to go alone from this greedy and dirty world, just as we came alone, then why do we try to please our close ones children, spouses, relatives when we know that they are just related to us in only bodily platform and not the soul, and when we realize that they won't be satisfied by it? Our body, our senses are just not satisfied with whatever we do for ourselves or for what others do for us. Then why can't we do those pleasing things for Krishna only, This material love doesn't exist for long, only Krishna exist forever and so is His Love for us. Only Krishna knows the truth behind our loving service, whatever we do for Him, He reciprocates infinitely, without even our knowing it.

As Brahmaji prays to the Lord in SB 3.9.6

taavad bhayah dravina-deha-suhrn-nimittam / shokah sprhaa paribhavo vipulash ca lobhah
taavan mamety asad-avagraha aarti-moolam / yaavan na te 'nghrim abhayam pravrrneeta lokah

"O my Lord, the people of the world are embarrassed by all material anxieties, they are always afraid. They always try to protect wealth, body and friends, they are filled with lamentation and unlawful desires and paraphernalia, and they avariciously base their undertakings on the perishable conceptions of 'my' and 'mine'. As long as they do not take shelter of Your safe lotus feet, they are full of such anxieties."

Srila Prabhupada emphasizes that "Everyone in the material world is full of thoughts about how to maintain his family, how to protect his wealth, how to keep pace with friends and relatives, and one is always embarrassed by thoughts of family affairs Thus he is always in fear and lamentation, trying to keep up with the status quo". He further continues saying "But a pure devotee of the Lord never thinks of himself as the proprietor of his home. He surrenders everything unto the supreme control of the Lord, and thus he has no fear for maintaining his family or protecting the interests of his family. A pure devotee is never entangled in material worldly affairs even though he may remain in the world like an ordinary man."

The key to the solution lies in understanding the two words in Srila Prabhupada's purport - "Proprietor" and "Entanglement". Because of our sense of proprietorship over all that we possess, all those who are related to us, we tend to act in such a way as to please everyone. This results in entanglement, in other words, we get caught and stuck in the web of worldly and family affairs. But after going through pains again and again in our every endeavor to please others, we ultimately, by the mercy of Guru and Krishna, realize that we should perform our duties without expectation or appreciation.

O Krishna! Please help me to detach from everyone and attach my mind and soul only towards You. O, Lord ! I am really a lonely soul who needs Your love and mercy, please engage my tongue to take Your name, to serve only You, for I know You were the only one with me when I was born and You will be the only one who with still be with me, when I die.

Thank you very much,
Yours in the service of Srila Prabhupada and Srila Gurudev,
Nayana Priya Devi Dasi