Most Miserable Persons - Part 2

Hare Krishna Prabhujis and Matajis,
Please accept my humble obeisances! All glories to Srila Prabhupada and Srila Gurudev!

This is in continuation of the previous offering titled, "Most Miserable Persons", wherein we were meditating on verse 11.11.19 of Srimad Bhagavatam. In this verse Lord Krishna gives us the list of miserable persons. In the previous offering we saw the example of the man who maintains a milkless cow and we shall see further.

2. Asatīṁ ca bhāryāṁ rakṣati - A man who maintains an unchaste wife - Similarly, although a man may discover that his wife is neither chaste nor affectionate, he may be so eager to get children that he goes on taking care of such a useless wife, thinking, "I will teach my wife the religious duties of a chaste woman. By hearing historical examples of great women surely her heart will change, and she will become a wonderful wife to me." Unfortunately, the unchaste wife in many cases does not change and also gives a man many useless children who are just as foolish and irreligious as she. Thus household life becomes hellish and miserable. Canakya pandita says in Niti sastra,

mātā yasya gṛhe nāsti bhāryā cāpriya-vādinī
araṇyaṁ tena gantavyaṁ yathāraṇyaṁ tathā gṛham

If a person has neither a mother nor a pleasing wife at home, he should leave home and go to the forest, because for him there is no difference between the forest and home.

The real mata, or mother, is devotional service to the Lord, and the real patni, or devoted wife, is a wife who helps her husband execute religious principles in devotional service. These two things are required for a happy home. Srila Prabhupada writes that, "So women should be trained up to be very faithful and chaste. Then the life will be very happy. That is the only education for woman."

3. Deham paraadhinam rakshati - A man who maintains a body that is completely dependent upon others. Srila Prabhupada states that, "In the material world, to be dependent on the mercy of someone else is the utmost sign of misfortune." In the Third Canto of Srimad-Bhagavatam, Lord Kapila describes very clearly that in spite of the exhausting work a man performs throughout his life, his family is ultimately dissatisfied, and when the exhausted father reaches old age, the irritated family members look upon him just as farmers look upon an old and useless ox. Sometimes the sons dream of receiving their father's money as an inheritance and secretly wish for him to die. Nowadays people strongly resent the trouble of caring for elderly parents and therefore send them to an institution, where they die lonely and neglected after a life of hard work for their so-called loved ones. Thus life is so miserable for a person when he or she becomes dependent upon others. That is why our beloved Gurudev, HH Mahavishnu Goswami Maharaj instructs us to pray to Krishna.

anāyāsena maraṇam vinā dainyena jīvanam
dehi me krpayā kṛṣṇa tvayi bhaktim acancalā

I should get a sudden death without any prolonged illness (this he asks mainly because he does not want to put others into inconvenience), I should not depend upon anybody for my life's needs, and as long as my soul is in this body, I should do steady unflinching devotional service unto You.

Krishna willing, we shall see the rest of the miserable persons in the ensuing offering.

Thank you very much.
Yours in service of Srila Prabhupada and Srila Gurudev,
Vaijayantimala devi dasi
Abu Dhabi.